Connaître nos différences pour mieux nous comprendre
Les hommes et les femmes ne se ressemblent pas : c'est une évidence ! Ils ne réagissent pas de la même manière au stress, aux soucis quotidiens et à l'amour. Comme si chacun venait d'une autre planète, au point de compliquer sensiblement la vie du couple.
Ce livre propose de découvrir comment fonctionne " l'étranger " qui est en face de nous, afin de faciliter l'existence commune. Et il y a beaucoup à apprendre ! Analyser les attitudes, décoder les messages, adapter son langage à celui de la planète opposée, savoir demander, offrir, et même... se disputer utilement !
Résultat des nombreux cours et séances de thérapie conjugale délivrés par John Gray, cet ouvrage est un guide indispensable pour tous ceux qui désirent comprendre, mieux communiquer et obtenir le maximum de la relation masculin-féminin.
Le livre culte
S'il y a aujourd'hui autant de divorces, si les hommes se réfugient dans la pornographie en ligne et leur compagne dans des romans d'amour, ce n'est pas un signe d'échec du couple. Cela signifie qu'on cherche ailleurs ce que l'on ne parvient pas à y trouver. L'intensité de nos frustrations indique que jamais on n'a autant eu envie d'amour. Notre souci, c'est de ne pas savoir comment faire pour être comblés ! Le monde a tellement changé au siècle dernier que nos parents n'ont pas pu nous transmettre les clés du bonheur conjugal. Les anciens schémas ne fonctionnent plus car les attentes sont trop différentes. Il faut réinventer la relation de couple. Plus qu'une méthode, c'est un art de vivre que promeut John Gray. Grâce à ses explications et conseils, le couple peut devenir un lieu d'épanouissement pour chacun des deux partenaires. L'amour et la passion peuvent vraiment durer toute la vie.
L'auteur vous explique notamment :
- Comment l'inversion des rôles affectifs détruit le désir, comment faire pour y remédier
- L'importance fondamentale du pardon dans la préservation du lien amoureux
- Les secrets d'une monogamie sexuellement intense sur le long terme.
Un livre fondamental pour les couples d'aujourd'hui !
Pourquoi les hommes cherchent-ils un sens à la vie ? Comment notre imagination en vient-elle à bâtir des mondes aussi éloignés de la réalité ? John Gray s'attache ici à nous montrer comment nous enjolivons notre existence d'innombrables fictions, détours et aveuglements afin de ne pas reconnaître que nous sommes, nous aussi, des animaux.
Un essai incisif et captivant qui nous donne à reconsidérer notre place dans le monde.
Professeur à Oxford et à la London School of Economics, John Gray est considéré comme l'un des penseurs les plus subversifs de notre temps.
Chiens de paille est une charge radicale contre notre humanisme libéral. Mettant à mal nos certitudes les plus chères et nos croyances les plus salvatrices, John Gray y dissèque la façon dont nous portons un regard inepte sur un monde que nous ne pouvons sauver et qui n'a nul besoin de l'être.
Que ce soit dans nos relations de couple, familiales (parents, enfants...), amicales ou professionnelles, nous répétons tous - sans en avoir conscience - des schémas comportementaux qui nous sont nuisibles. Ils sont l'héritage d'un conditionnement social ou de blessures affectives qui nous ont poussés à enterrer nos émotions négatives dans notre inconscient. Or, à force de réprimer nos émotions négatives, on finit aussi par perdre contact avec nos émotions positives, comme l'amour de soi et des autres !
o Comment faire pour lutter contre l'auto-dépréciation ?
o Comment gérer les tensions quotidiennes et éviter de se laisser dévorer par la rancoeur ?
o Pourquoi est-on en colère ?
o Comment exploiter les ressorts de cette émotion pour aller mieux ?
o Comment renouer le dialogue et faire la paix avec les gens qui nous ont blessés ?
o Comment désamorcer la colère d'une personne qu'on a blessée ?
o Comment notre passé affectif nous empêche d'être heureux en couple et d'entretenir de bonnes relations avec nos enfants ? Un guide positif et décontracté qui explique l'origine de nos difficultés relationnelles et nous offre des moyens simples et efficaces pour y remédier !
L'usure du couple et l'érosion du désir ne sont pas des fatalités ! Cet ouvrage vous aidera à aborder cette aventure à deux avec optimisme. Que vous rencontriez des difficultés légères ou profondes, vous avez le pouvoir de changer les choses. Grâce aux judicieux conseils de John Gray, vous apprendrez à :
o Mieux comprendre votre partenaire et le soutenir
o Mieux vous connaître vous-même et vous améliorer
o Désamorcer et éviter les conflits
o Être capable de pardonner
o Trouver la paix intérieure
o Construire une relation de couple harmonieuse.
Avec ce livre, John Gray aborde le sujet fondamental du conflit dans le couple ! "Mars et Vénus font la paix est un guide précieux pour celles et ceux qui souhaitent que leur amour perdure et soit heureux !"
From John Gray, author of the phenomenal multi-million copy bestseller Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, comes the definitive book for men and women seeking lasting love in the face of modern pressures.
Why Mars and Venus Collide is the most important relationships manual since Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus redefined the boundaries of male and female relationships.
Men and women are different - we all know that. But if our genes have stood still then social changes have not. Overworked, stressed-out and time-poor, we can barely keep up with the frenzied pace of our lives - and our relationships are breaking down as a result.
In Why Mars and Venus Collide, John Gray, the best-selling relationships author of all time, shows how everyone can strengthen their relationships and make them last.
- Why couples fight - the physiological reasons why females and males behave differently under stress,
- How to stop fighting,
- How to seek support - and find it,
- How to lower your stress levels in everyday life,
- How to communicate equably and amicably, even when you're raging inside.
Now repackaged to relate to a new generation of readers, Why Mars And Venus Collide proves why John Gray is known as the greatest living authority on how men and women relate.
Now available as an ebook for the first time, the legendary relationships guide that mothers recommend to their daughters, friends give as gifts and brothers steal from their sisters, MEN ARE FROM MARS AND WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS is inarguably the definitive book on having a happy relationship.'A treasure', 'a bible' and 'an heirloom' are some of the words used to describe the book that has saved countless relationships and improved innumerable others. Now repackaged to relate to a new generation of readers, this phenomenal book continues to carry its legacy of understanding and trust into the world.Since its first publication, over a staggering 15 million copies of MEN ARE FROM MARS, WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS have sold globally to single men and women looking for guidance on how to find the perfect partner, married couples seeking to strengthen their bond, and divorcees hoping to fathom where it all went wrong.Gray's insights into how to allow your other half to "pull away" like an elastic band, prevent your emotional baggage from polluting your current relationship, and translate the phrases of the opposite sex are as relevant now as when they were first published.With straightforward, honest writing from that precious male perspective, Gray unlocks the secrets hidden in your partner's words and actions to enable you both to reach true mutual understanding and a lifetime of love. Discover for yourself why thousands believe that MEN ARE FROM MARS, WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS should be mandatory reading for everyone.
John Gray's books have brought a powerful message to millions of people across the world. In this groundbreaking parenting book he addresses an area of fundamental importance for all families - the well-being of our children. In MEN ARE FROM MARS, WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS, CHILDREN ARE FROM HEAVEN, John Gray provides the ultimate guide for parenting, addressing the unique bond between parents and children. Geared to parents of chidren from birth to teens, this invaluable handbook shows parents how to help their children become strong, confident, morally responsible adults by focusing on self-esteem and responsibility.
Millions of readers have experienced John Gray's healing advice through his Mars and Venus series. This master therapist took therapy to the next level with his brilliant personal success programme How to Get What you Want and Want What you Have. Now here is handy pocket size is John Gray's innovative and proven five-step method to make you happy, confident, and at peace, enabling you to recognise and achieve your soul's desire and live a rich and fulfilling life.
Mars and Venus in the Bedroom offers practical, heartfelt and wise advice to help you to transform your love life and enjoy a sexually and emotionally fulfilling relationship. This edition of John Gray's bestselling book explains how to keep passion alive in a long-term relationship and reveals what men and women really want from each other. He understands that there may be differences between you, but explains why instead of causing friction, these differences can make life much more fun and fulfilling.
OPRAH WINFREY LOVED THIS BOOK SO MUCH SHE ASKED JOHN GRAY TO TAKE OVER AN ENTIRE EPISODE OF HER SHOW TO TALK ABOUT IT! Millions of readers have experienced John Gray's healing advice through his Mars & Venus series. Now this master therapist takes therapy to the next level with a brilliant new personal success programme. Combining Western healing techniques with Eastern Meditation, Gray presents an innovative and proven method to become happy, confident, and at peace through his five steps to personal success. This personal development book shows you how to: *Identify and take responsibility for the blocks to your personal success. *Understand your soul's desire *Release negative emotions *Identify needs and take action *Decide what you want each day and put your life together in order to achieve it. John Gray's book allows you to acknowledge, forgive and transcend the pain of the past in order to recognise and achieve your soul's desire.
Men are from Mars, and Women are from Venus at home and at work! In this powerful book, John Gray turns his successful Mars and Venus healing advice towards work and success in modern times - from how to create and maintain positive relationships at work, how to maximize your potential; how to realize your creativity and more. With insightful advice for men and women, he stresses the need to focus on what you love and what is important in life in order to create lasting success. In How to Get What You Want in the Workplace, John Gray provides the ultimate guide for real and lasting success, and happiness and fulfilment at work.
There's no doubt about it; the relationship between men and women is extremely complex. We often forget just how different the sexes are, and become frustrated and confused by a loved one's behaviour. In this volume John Gray's expert relationship advice is distilled into powerful, daily inspirations that lovingly and insightfully remind us of the contrasts between Mars and Venus, allowing us to resolve conflicts in our relationships. It includes comforting and helpful advise on: * giving and receiving emotional support
* discovering and awakening your hidden qualities
* keeping passion alive
* reacting to, and coping with, stress
* maintaining your zest for lifeWhether you need thoughtful reminders yourself or know a friend or loved one who will benefit from these beautiful reflections, Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus Book of Days is a must.
Everybody wants a love that will last forever. . . but for many reasons relationships end. Each year millions of people are widowed, break up with their long-term partner or get divorced. The healing period after such a loss can be difficult, but getting over the grief, anger and pain can be much easier with expert help. In this book, relationship expert and dynamo John Gray offers comfort and empowering advice on how to overcome loss and gain the confidence to meet new people and engage in new relationships. There is hope. For the millions of newly single people in the UK, Mars and Venus Single Again is like a lifeguard at the dating pool.
John Gray has become a publishing phenomenon. His first book, MEN ARE FROM MARS, WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS is still a No 1 New York Times bestseller after 3 years, and is in the UK Top 100 too. He is renowned as THE international relationships guru. John Gray has brought a powerful message to millions of people across the world. He explains how better communication and the recognition of men and women's different emotional needs leads to greater intimacy. In MARS AND VENUS IN LOVE, all those who embraced his ideas will see them in action in first-person stories told by people who, using his advice and counsel, have created fulfilling, healthy and loving relationships. After the incredible response to his work, Dr Gray thought the success of some couples might inspire others like them. Readers will find hope, encouragement and humour in this collection of experiences, which everyone who has ever had difficulty communicating with the opposite sex will find something to identify with.
In How to Live for Change and Change for Life, renowned self-help guru John Gray turns his successful healing advice to how we live in modern times and gives new advice on love and all relationships - from couples and friends, to parents and beyond. He explains the amazing benefits of committing to change and returning to what's important in order to create a life of lasting love, health and happiness. He also provides practical principles to live by, including:-- Love as if you have never been hurt before - positive thinking-- Dance as if no one is watching - vulnerability-- Work as if you don't need the money - responsibility-- Believe as if miracles can happen - acceptance
John Gray provides ultimate little tips for parenting, honoring the unique bond that exists between parents and children. You will find inspiring tips to help you from when your child is first born right through to their teens.
From the best selling author of Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, a practical guide on how to live your life in these times of tremendous change.In Practical Miracles for Mars And Venus, renowned self-help guru John Gray turns his successful healing advice to how we live in modern times and gives news advice on Love and all relationships- from couples and friends, to parents and beyond. He explains the amazing benefits of committing to change and returning to what's most important in order to create a life of lasting love, health and happiness. He also practical principles to live by, including:Â·Love as if you have never been hurt before-positive thinking
Â·Dance as if no one is watching-vulnerability
Â·Work as if you don't need the money- responsibility
Â·Believe as if miracles can happen-acceptanceIn Practical Miracles for Mars And Venus, John Gray provides the ultimate guide for lasting love, increased success and vibrant health in the new millennium.
From first look and first date to first fight, breaking up and making up, the world of dating can be a minefield for the unprepared. International relationship guru, John Gray turns his expertise to the language and behaviour of dating couples. Asking questions such as:-How should you act on your first date?
-How can you tell if your partner means what he says?
-Is this love or just lust at first sight?John Gray helps new couples figure out whether they are partners for life or just enjoying a brief encounter. His approach will help both men and women play the dating game with its complex rules of etiquette and behaviour, and explains how to separate fact from fantasy in conversation, body language and future expectations. His humorous insight and practical advice will help young and old alike to reach closer understanding, love and commitment, and have fun on the way!
Our conventional view of history and human progress is wrong. It is founded on a pernicious myth of an acheivable utopia that in the last century alone caused the murder of tens of millions. In Black Mass John Gray tears down the religious, political and secular beliefs that we insist are fundamental to the human project and shows us how a misplaced faith in our ability to improve the world has actually made it far worse.
From the author of Straw Dogs, John Gray's Gray's Anatomy is a pugnacious and brilliantly readable collection of essays from across his career.Why is progress a pernicious myth?
Why do beliefs that humanity can be improved end in farce or horror?
Is atheism a hangover from Christian faith?John Gray, one of the most iconoclastic thinkers of our time, smashes through civilization's most cherished beliefs, overturning our view of the world, and our place in it. 'The most prescient of British public intellectuals' Pankaj Mishra, Financial Times
'Gray has consistently anticipated the shape of things to come ... he teaches us that true humanism is to be found in uncertainty and doubt' Will Self
'Gray's dissection of modern delusion, cant and wishful thinking is to be welcomed in this moment of convulsion ... This is a book to learn from and argue with' Ben Wilson, Literary Review'A thoroughly enjoyable book ... These essays cover a remarkable range of topics, from Isaiah Berlin to Damien Hirst, from torture to environmentalism. But their unifying theme is that our naïve belief in the idea of progress has turned modern life into a constant round of shadow-boxing' David Runciman, Observer
'Demolishes the theory that we have reached the "end of history", the dogmas of secular liberalism, the weaknesses of financial casino capitalism and the limits of energy-intensive economic growth' Economist
John Gray is most recently the acclaimed author of Straw Dogs: Thoughts on Humans and Other Animals, Heresies: Against Progress and Other Illusions, Al Qaeda and What It Means To Be Modern and Black Mass: Apocalyptic Religion and the Death of Utopia. He is Emeritus Professor of European Thought at the University of London.
The powerful, beautiful and chilling sequel to the bestselling Straw Dogs
John Gray draws on an extraordinary array of memoirs, poems, fiction and philosophy to make us re-imagine our place in the world. Writers as varied as Ballard, Borges, Freud and Conrad are mesmerised by forms of human extremity - experiences on the outer edge of the possible, or which tip into fantasy and myth. What happens to us when we starve, when we fight, when we are imprisoned? And how do our imaginations leap into worlds way beyond our real experience?The Silence of Animals is consistently fascinating, filled with unforgettable images and a delight in the conundrum of our existence - an existence which we decorate with countless myths and ideas, where we twist and turn to avoid acknowledging that we too are animals, separated from the others perhaps only by our self-conceit. In the Babel we have created for ourselves, it is the silence of animals that both reproaches and bewitches us.Reviews:'The Silence of Animals is a new kind of book from Gray, a sort of poetic reverie on the human state, on the state, that is, of the human animal ... He blends lyricism with wisdom, humour with admonition, nay-saying with affirmation, making in the process a marvellous statement of what it is to be both an animal and a human in the strange, terrifying and exquisite world into which we straw dogs find ourselves thrown' John Banville, Guardian'Interesting, original and memorable ... The Silence of Animals is a beautifully written book, the product of a strongly questioning mind. It is effectively an anthology with detailed commentary, setting out one rich and suggestive episode after another' Philip Hensher, Spectator
About the author:John Gray has been Professor of Politics at Oxford University, Visiting Professor at Harvard and Yale and Professor of European Thought at the London School of Economics. He now writes full time. His books include False Dawn: The Delusions of Global Capitalism, Straw Dogs: Thoughts on Humans and Other Animals and The Immortalization Commission: The Strange Quest to Cheat Death. His selected writings, Gray's Anatomy, was published in 2009.
SUNDAY TIMES, NEW STATESMAN and TLS BOOKS OF THE YEAR
At the heart of all human experience lies our obsession with death. For many years we turned to religion for answers, but with the twentieth century came ideas from evolution and politics to suggest that our lives - and afterlives - were in our own hands. Such ideas went on to have both trivial and terrible effects: from a sweeping craze of séances to the mass-murders of the Stalinist terror. Gray raises vital questions about the 'truths' science can offer, the technology we are still exploiting for immortality - and exactly what it means to be human.